As part of Jennifer Degler Ministries, CWIVES helps you make your marriage sizzle with smoking hot sex!

CWIVES (Christian Wives Initiating Valuing Enjoying Sex) is your trusted resource for biblically-based, practical advice for making your marriage sizzle God’s way.

The I, V, and E parts of sex don’t always come easy to women, particularly after the honeymoon glow fades, and the laundry, bills, and children pile up. And when wives don’t prioritize or value sex, we don’t initiate sex very often—if at all. We can become sexual slackers, not doing our fair share to make our marriage sizzle.

When sex seems increasingly unimportant to wives, it gets put way down our priority list, right after Priority #47: “Brush the dog’s teeth.” And when the sizzle fizzles, wives don’t enjoy sex very much—which makes us value sex even less which in turn makes us initiate less frequently.

You can reverse this destructive cycle that robs you of the intimate marriage you’ve always wanted. God’s plan for married sex includes both husbands and wives Initiating, Valuing, and Enjoying sex. Not just boring “wake-me-up-when-it’s-over” sex, but mind-blowing, spirit-connecting, intimacy-producing, sizzling sex. The kind of married sex that bonds you together as a couple—mind, body, and soul.

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Recent Podcasts

Taming Your Tongue Part Two — Tongue Management 102 — Controlling Your Speech (Study of James 3)

In part 2, psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares three more tips for managing the tongue based on James 3, including controlling your tongue's power for...

Taming Your Tongue Part One — Tongue Management 101 (Study of James 3)

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Tips for Being an Extraordinary Christian in Ordinary Life (Study of James 1 and 2)

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Recent Posts

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Three Tips for Becoming a Grateful Couple Instead of a Grumbling Couple

If a reality show was based on your marriage, would the promo copy describe you and your spouse as grateful or grumbling? Think about your...

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October 2018 Contest!

OCTOBER 2018 CONTEST: Brush up on your Thriller dance moves for our October contest! Send us a 10 -15 second video clip of you and...

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Banana Cream, Coconut Cream, Butterscotch Cream, or Chocolate Cream Pie Recipe

Banana, Coconut, Butterscotch, or Chocolate Cream Pie 1 baked pie shell 2/3 cup sugar (can substitute 1/3 cup sugar and 1/3 cup Splenda) ½ cup...

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Win a Prize in our April 2018 CWIVES “New Locations Dare”

For the time period of April 1 to April 25, 2018, keep track of every new location you have sex, inside and outside your home....

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Fun Stories of How Wives Did the February 2018 Dare of the Month: “Show and Tell Dare”

Wow, we are impressed with the adventurous wives who completed February’s “Show and Tell Dare” and emailed us their stories! We chose a random winner…

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Win a Prize in our March 2018 CWIVES Contest “Get Lucky Streak”

Dr. Jennifer Degler and CWIVES want to help you and your husband get lucky in March 2018 just in time for St. Patrick’s Day! Our…

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Reader Question: Why Can’t I Achieve Orgasm through Intercourse?

Dear Dr. Jennifer, I want to thank you so much for having the courage to do a podcast about sex. I listened to your Midday…

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Valentine’s Day Victory in Your Bedroom

What is defeating you sexually? Wives can be defeated by: Lack of energy for sex: “I’m just too tired. Maybe once the kids are older…

Dr. Jennifer Degler on Why You Shouldn’t See or Read 50 Shades of Grey

It deeply saddens me to learn that millions of women and teenaged girls have read and are considering going to see the soon-to-be-released film of…

Reader Question of the Week: How Can I Get My Wife More Interested in Sex?

I’m often asked by husbands, “How can I get my wife more interested in sex?” Sexual desire is complicated, but you can help your wife…

5 Suggestions for Helping a Sexually Abused Husband

    One in six boys will be sexually abused before age 18. Apply this statistic to marriage, and you’ll quickly see that almost 20%…

Why I Can’t Quit Encouraging Wives to Have More and Better Sex

“You lose your way when you lose your why. Write down the reasons why you can’t quit doing the work you’ve been called to do.”…

What Do I Do If My Spouse Won’t Have Sex?

What do you do when your spouse won’t have sex with you? Husbands and wives are puzzled, hurt, and frustrated because their spouse either refuses…

5 Reasons to Get Sexy: Guest Post by Poppy Smith

Today’s blog is a guest post by Poppy Smith, the author of the  newly released Why Can’t HE Be More Like ME?  Enjoy! Have you…

Why You Shouldn’t Read 50 Shades of Grey

It deeply saddens me to learn that millions of women and teenaged girls are reading 50 Shades of Grey. I am grieved by the number…

Guest Blog: Becky Kiser on “A Year’s Worth of Screws”

Today’s blog is written by the delightful Becky Kiser (you can read her previous CWIVES guest blog at this link http://www.cwives.com/?p=1506). She writes her own blog…

Confessions of a Distracted Wife

Confession: I haven’t done the Dares for the last two months. That’s right, I, the CWIVES founder, owe my husband two Dares. Why? Because I…

Reader Question of the Week: What if the Dares are Difficult for Me?

Dear Dr. Jennifer, I receive your Dares of the Month, but I’ve never been “able” to do one because of nervousness and insecurity. There is…

Jeff Speaks Out: My Husband Will Take Your Questions Now

As promised, here are Jeff’s answers to your questions. He really is the best of husbands. I edited his answers only for grammatical errors, so…

Guest Blogger Arlene Pellicane on “Making Time for Love with Young Kids in the House”

Today’s guest blogger is Arlene Pellicane (look at her photo–isn’t she lovely?). She knows a thing or two on how to make a husband happy;…

Let’s Put Dr. Jennifer’s Husband on the Hot Seat

Life is interesting when you are married to “the sex lady.” You never know what other people will come up and say to you or…

Reader Question: How Do I Help My Husband Become a Better Lover?

Dear Dr. Jennifer, My problem is that I find sex with my husband…. lacking. We both have great sex drives: he could probably have sex…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Six: Causes and Treatments for Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual problem; according to Rekindling Desire, “3 in 10 adult males experience early ejaculation.” This begs the question:…

Guest Blog: Becky Kiser on “Sex Isn’t Like the Movies”

You are in for a treat today! Today’s blog is written by Becky Kiser, an absolutely delightful young wife and mom. Her popular blog (which…

Orgasm FAQs Part Two: Clitoral Contact is Key

1) Clitoral contact is key in producing female orgasm. If you aren’t using a lubricant in that area, add one. You may need much longer…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Five: How to Address His Sexual Dysfunction

Tactfulness, timing, and teamwork are key when addressing sexual dysfunctions, such erectile difficulties or premature ejaculation, with your husband. Discussions like this often go better…

Excellent Resource to Add to Your Sex Book Collection: “The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex”

      What?! You don’t have a collection of sex books written for Christians? Perhaps you have a collection of cookbooks because you know…

Orgasm FAQs Part One: Why Can’t I Have an Orgasm?

1) Women’s sexual response is varied and complex. Don’t compare yourself to your husband. The typical male sexual response is predictable: one orgasm during intercourse….

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Four: Causes of and Treatments for Erectile Difficulties

            Ask your husband what he fears the most, and you may hear answers like “heights,” “loneliness,” or even “your…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Three: How Erectile Difficulties Lead to Lack of Desire

This is the third in a series of blogs on the topic of husbands with low sexual desire. If you are a wife seeking to…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Two: Causes of Male Desire Problems

This is the second in a series of blogs on the topic of husbands with low sexual desire. Yes, that’s right, there are husbands who…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part One: Wives Speak Out

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Eat Your Way to a Better Sex Life

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Christmas Pick Up Lines

To add to your CWIVES holiday fun, here is a list of Christmas-themed pick up lines to try out on your husband. I hope they…

How We Tear Down Our Marriages, One Negative Thought at a Time

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Reader Question: How Do I Learn to Talk Sexy?

Dear Dr. Jennifer, My husband wants me to be sexy, such as initiating sex in a sexy way and talking dirty. I have no idea…

Adventures of a Conference Speaker

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Reader Question: Am I a prude because I don’t enjoy acting out my husband’s sexual fantasies?

Hi Jennifer, I caught the end of your program on Midday Connection today and found it very interesting. In the past and currently, my husband…

Back in the Blogging Saddle & Barna Research

It’s been an interesting five weeks since my last blog entry. For technical reasons unknown to me, I couldn’t log onto my own website via…

How Can I Be a Godly Wife AND a Sensuous Wife?

The Godly, Sensuous Wife Have you ever wondered, “How can I be a godly wife and a sensuous wife?” The question behind this question is,…

Guest Blogger, Jill Savage of Hearts at Home, on Scheduling Sex

Today’s guest blogger is Jill Savage, the lovely and wise founder of Hearts at Home. Hearts at Home’s mission is to encourage, educate, and equip…

Reader Question: What Can I Do if My Husband is Opposed to Lubricants?

Reader Question:  What Can I Do if My Husband is Opposed to Lubricants? Hi Dr. Jennifer, My husband has always been opposed to the idea…

Guest Blogger, Leigh Ann Napier, on Adding More Happy to Your Marriage

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Reader Question: What Can I Do if I Check Out During Sex Due to Childhood Sexual Abuse?

Reader Question: Dear Dr. Jennifer, I found out about your website after reading No More Christian Nice Girl. I just married a couple of months…

What Sex Means to Husbands

What do you think sex means to your husband? Try this fun and enlightening task:  Find two index cards. On one card, write these questions:…