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  • How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex
  • Inspiring Obedience
  • Healthy Boundaries with Adult Children
  • Managing ADHD
  • Advocating for Learning Disabled Children
  • Parenting Autistic Kids
  • Transitioning into a Consultant Parent
  • Setting Boundaries with Difficult People
  • Handling Necessary Conflict Wisely
  • Overcoming People-Pleasing
  • Recovering from Codependent Relationships
  • Healing Dysfunctional Relationships
  • Creating Authentic Connections with Others

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From lovingly maintaining limits with your kids to setting healthy boundaries with in-laws,  Dr. Jennifer’s presentations are designed to help make your relationships more satisfying.

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Taming Your Tongue Part Two — Tongue Management 102 — Controlling Your Speech (Study of James 3)

In part 2, psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares three more tips for managing the tongue based on James 3, including controlling your tongue's power for...

Taming Your Tongue Part One — Tongue Management 101 (Study of James 3)

In part 1, psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares three helpful tips for managing your tongue based on James 3:1-5, including: Using your tongue to benefit...

Tips for Being an Extraordinary Christian in Ordinary Life (Study of James 1 and 2)

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares how we can be extraordinary followers of Christ in ordinary life based on James 1 -2. Topics include what being...

Three Tips for Becoming a Grateful Couple Instead of a Grumbling Couple

If a reality show was based on your marriage, would the promo copy describe you and your spouse as grateful or grumbling? Think about your...

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Three Tips for Becoming a Grateful Couple Instead of a Grumbling Couple

If a reality show was based on your marriage, would the promo copy describe you and your spouse as grateful or grumbling? Think about your...

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6 Reasons Why Anxiety May Be a Particular Problem for Christians

While we'd like to think as believers that a strong Christian faith translates automatically into a fearless, worry-free mind, that is not always the case...

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Anxiety and Living in the Land of “What If?”

About 20% of the US population has an anxiety disorder. That's about one in five people, or 40 million adults. If you were allowed to...

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October 2018 Contest!

OCTOBER 2018 CONTEST: Brush up on your Thriller dance moves for our October contest! Send us a 10 -15 second video clip of you and...

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September 2018 Gold Star Contest

September contest:   Total up how many gold stars you and your husband earn together, along with your initials, and email us your total at...

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Guest Blog by Ellen Martin

In the day of Facebook all it takes to make a “friend” is the click of a button.  On Facebook we have constant “community,” but...

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Discovering God’s Faithfulness Amidst the Bitter Disappointments of Infertility

Infertility, with all of its intrusive procedures, bitter disappointments, and tirades aimed at God, was not how I had envisioned my path to motherhood. Growing...

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Fun Stories of How Wives Did the February 2018 Dare of the Month: “Show and Tell Dare”

Wow, we are impressed with the adventurous wives who completed February’s “Show and Tell Dare” and emailed us their stories! We chose a random winner…

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Loving Well Series–Part 4: Four Things Love Always Does in Relationships

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares four things love always does: 1) Love always protects people; 2) Love always believes the best about people; 3) Love…

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Loving Well Series–Part 3: How to Be Less Irritable and Selfish and More Respectful in Relationships

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares tips for overcoming rudeness, selfishness, irritability, perfectionism, score-keeping, and gloating in relationships. Based on 1st Corinthians 13:5-6. This is the…

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Loving Well Series–Part 2: How to Be More Patient and Kind and Less Envious and Proud

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares tips for developing patience and showing kindness with others. She also discusses envy and jealousy and how to cultivate contentedness…

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Love is in the Air with Guest Dr. Jennifer Degler

Relationships: the most common reason why relationships fail, how can we communicate better with husbands and sons, and how do we date after divorce? You’ll…

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Loving Well Series Part 1– Four Relationship Consequences of Not Loving Others Well

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares four negative consequences in relationships when we don’t love well: 1) Our words are just noise to other people; 2)…

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Valentine’s Day Victory in Your Bedroom

What is defeating you sexually? Wives can be defeated by: Lack of energy for sex: “I’m just too tired. Maybe once the kids are older…

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Aiming My Way Out of Depression and Anxiety

Guest post by "Claire" (not her real name)   Each time I look down at my bare feet, I see three small arrows. Each is...

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The Power of Thoughts

Guest blog by Darby Dugger Have you ever realized the power of your thoughts? Last week my husband came home from work with a bakery...

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Five Ways to Thrive in Military Marriage

Guest Blog by Liz Giertz Marriage is hard. And Military Marriage can be even harder. We face challenges those in the civilian sector cannot even...

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How to Encourage Military Spouses with Guest Ellie Kay

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler and her guest, Ellie Kay of Heroes At Home, provide helpful tips on how to help military spouses and children, as…

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Raising Selfless Kids in a Self-Centered World–Guest Pastor Dave Stone

Strategies for intentionally raising children to be “others-oriented,” genuine, and caring instead of self-absorbed and selfish. Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler interviews Dave Stone, pastor of…

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“How to Be a Strong Respected Parent” with guest Dr. Leonard Sax

Our guest, Dr. Leonard Sax, shares how to counteract the culture of disrespect that has infected many children and teens, how to wisely manage children’s…

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Encouragement for Parents of Kids with ADHD or Learning Disabilities

By: Jennifer Degler Are you worried about your child’s future because he or she has ADHD or learning disabilities or, as is often the case,...

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Staying Married Even When You Want Out

Blog by Savannah Cook Are you willing to fight for your man in the dark seasons of marriage?  Dark seasons—you know the ones I’m talking...

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Innocent and Sober Trust

Guest Blog by Richard “Rick” Landon, D. Min. Trust is one of those words and concepts that we seem to use regularly and without much...

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Having a Future Story

Guest Blog by Richard “Rick” Landon, D. Min. I spend a lot of time in the counseling room with couples whose youngest child is about...

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The Gift of Boundaries for Friendship

Guest Blog by: Ellen Martin In the day of Facebook all it takes to make a “friend” is the click of a button.  On Facebook...

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Podcast with Arlene Pellicane on Hope for ADHD

Many children today struggle with ADHD. My friend Dr. Jennifer Degler joins me to talk about her son Jake who was diagnosed at a young…

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Enlightening Biblical Submission Discussion in “9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage”

I confess, sometimes when author friends send me a free copy of their latest book, I don’t always read the whole book. Not true with…

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No More Christian Nice Girl book overview (with co-author Paul Coughlin)

No More Christian Nice Girl book overview (with co-author Paul Coughlin) 08/12/2010 When passivity and false niceness don’t bring the abundant life Jesus promised, some…

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Parenting: Transitioning from Being an In-Control Parent to a Consultant Parent

Parenting: Transitioning from Being an In-Control Parent to a Consultant Parent 06/24/2015 What happens in the life of a parent when a child graduates high…

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ADHD in Adults and Children

ADHD in Adults and Children 05/04/2015 It may seem like a lot is written about children and ADHD. But what happens when a child grows…

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Bullying

Bullying 04/06/2015 Description: What happens when you find out your child is being bullied in school? That’s the story of Dr. Jennifer Degler and her…

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What’s Right with Me: Self-Esteem and Co-Dependency

What’s Right with Me: Self-Esteem and Co-Dependency 02/09/2015 It’s so easy to ask the question, “What’s wrong with me?” But what if we asked, instead,…

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Dealing with Praise and Rejection

Dealing with Praise and Rejection 01/27/2014 We normally like praise and dread rejection. While praise feels good and rejection stings, both have the potential to…

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Growing Up and Growing Out

Growing Up and Growing Out 11/18/2013 Jennifer Degler is back on Midday Connection and she’ll talk about women growing up and not being people pleasers,…

Emotional and Verbal Abuse in the Workplace and Marriage

Emotional and Verbal Abuse in the Workplace and Marriage 03/31/2014 What do you do when you find yourself bullied at work or put down by…

Verbal and Emotional Abuse – 4 Part Series

4 Episodes on Verbal and Emotional Abuse Verbal and Emotional Abuse, Part 1: 01/24/2013 What happens when you find yourself in a relationship with someone…

Narcissistic People

Jennifer on Moody Radio’s Midday Connection Program – February 16, 2011 Subject: Narcissistic People It’s all about working with or living with a narcissistic person…

Living with a Narcissistic Parent

Jennifer on Moody Radio’s Midday Connection Program – January 12, 2011 Living with a Narcissistic Parent It’s one thing to work with a narcissistic person,…

Co-Dependency – 4 Part Series

Jennifer on Moody Radio’s Midday Connection Program – May 9, 2011 Co-Dependency, Part 1 Do you know what losing yourself in the name of helping…

No More Christian Nice Girl with Author Jennifer Degler

12 Part Radio Series: Midday Connection on Moody Radio Tired of doing all you can for others while your relationships remain stuck in neutral…or even…

WBCL’s Mid-Morning radio show, 4/20/15, topic “Energy Drainers and 5 Ways to Deal With Them”

Have anyone in your life that just d-r-a-i-n-s every last bit of energy out of your mind and body? If you’re at a loss for…

WBCL’s Mid-Morning radio show, February 13, 2015, topic “No More Christian Nice Girl”

Tired of doing all you can for others while your relationships remain stuck in neutral – or headed in reverse? Dr. Jennifer Degler talks with…

Emotional Abuse Part 4 — Are You Emotionally Abusive — Relationship Tips

Do you think you have the right to make most of the decisions in a relationship? Do you insist on getting your own way? You…

Emotional Abuse Part 3 — Warning Signs That You Are In an Emotionally Abusive Relationship — Relationship Tips

Do you suspect you are or a friend is being emotionally abused? Can’t figure out why you can’t ever please that difficult other person? Psychologist…

Dr. Jennifer Degler on Why You Shouldn’t See or Read 50 Shades of Grey

It deeply saddens me to learn that millions of women and teenaged girls have read and are considering going to see the soon-to-be-released film of…

Warning Signs That You Are In an Emotionally Abusive Relationship — Relationship Tips

Do you suspect you are or a friend is being emotionally abused? Can’t figure out why you can’t ever please that difficult other person? Psychologist…

Emotional Abuse Part 2 — Red Flags for Recognizing an Emotionally Abusive Man or Woman

Can you spot an emotional abuser? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler provides red flags for recognizing someone who is likely to be an emotionally abusive person.

Emotional Abuse Part 1 — What Is Emotional Abuse

Do you recognize emotional abuse when it happens in a relationship? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler defines and gives examples of emotional and verbal abuse. Recognizing…

Coping When Someone You Love Dies — Yvonne Ortega

As Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and graduations approach, the loss of loved ones can feel especially painful. Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler interviews author and counselor,…

Making Sex a Prime Time Priority in Your Marriage

Does sex with your spouse only get the leftover time in your schedule? Are you having sex less frequently in your marriage than both of…

Signs that an Emotionally Immature or Abusive Person Has Truly Changed

How do you know if an emotionally immature or verbally or physically abusive person has truly changed and is now safe to be in a…

Advocating for a Dyslexic Child with Beth Degler

Is your child struggling in school, and no one can figure out exactly what is wrong? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler interviews Beth Degler who successfully…

The 20 Minute Conversation That Will Radically Improve Your Marriage

Would you like to look forward to seeing your spouse at the end of the day? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler gives helpful tips for having…

4 Tips for Making Married Sex Sizzle — J Parker of Hot Holy and Humorous

Want to take your marriage from fizzle to sizzle? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler interviews J Parker, the author of Sex Savvy: A Lovemaking Guide for…

Confronting Other People’s Sin –Part 3

When someone wrongs you, are you able to confront them like Jesus would? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler gives tips for confronting the sin of others…

Confronting Other People’s Sin — Part 2

Unsure of how to confront somone when they’ve wronged you? In this second podcast in a series, Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler gives tips for confronting…

Confronting Other People’s Sin — Part 1

Has someone wronged you? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler gives tips for handling the sin of others in a healthy, biblical manner.

Identifying Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Do you recognize emotional abuse when it happens to you? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler gives tips for identifying emotional abuse in relationships, as well as…

More Pleasurable Sex by Maximizing a Wife’s Testosterone

Men have 10 times more testosterone than women, so wives need to maximize the testosterone they do have for more sexual interest and pleasure. Psychologist…

Overcoming Pornography Addiction — Mark and Angela Day

Are you or is a friend struggling with pornography? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler interviews Mark and Angela Day, a married couple who offer hope and…

Recognizing Unhealthy Friendships

Are you hanging on to an unhealthy friendship? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares four red flags to help you recognize unhealthy friendships.

When Your Spouse Won’t Have Sex With You

Are you living in a sexless marriage because your spouse has never had sex with you or only had sex a handful of times? Psychologist…

Respecting Your Spouse When You Make Decisions

Do you always consult with your spouse and get his or her feedback and preferences before making decisions? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler gives 3 red…

Parenting a Disabled Child Requiring Lifelong Care

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler interviews Becky Wimpy, the mother of a 24-year-old son who was born with cerebral palsy. Becky shares her tips for parenting…

Thinking Positively About Others and Squashing Contempt

Are you stuck in a rut of thinking negative thoughts about someone you are in a relationship with? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler offers practical tips…

Staying Connected as a Couple Through Job Loss

Tips for staying connected as a couple when you or your spouse loses a job.

Coping With Job Loss with Larry & Donna Lewis

Coping with Job Loss with Larry & Donna Lewis Tips for coping with job loss and supporting a spouse who has lost a job.

5 Suggestions for Helping a Sexually Abused Husband

    One in six boys will be sexually abused before age 18. Apply this statistic to marriage, and you’ll quickly see that almost 20%…

Why I Can’t Quit Encouraging Wives to Have More and Better Sex

“You lose your way when you lose your why. Write down the reasons why you can’t quit doing the work you’ve been called to do.”…

The Worst New Year’s Resolution Ever

Sad fact: the first full week of January is the peak time for married people to create a profile on websites allowing them to “hook…

What Do I Do If My Spouse Won’t Have Sex?

What do you do when your spouse won’t have sex with you? Husbands and wives are puzzled, hurt, and frustrated because their spouse either refuses…

5 Reasons to Get Sexy: Guest Post by Poppy Smith

Today’s blog is a guest post by Poppy Smith, the author of the  newly released Why Can’t HE Be More Like ME?  Enjoy! Have you…

Why You Shouldn’t Read 50 Shades of Grey

It deeply saddens me to learn that millions of women and teenaged girls are reading 50 Shades of Grey. I am grieved by the number…

Guest Blog: Becky Kiser on “A Year’s Worth of Screws”

Today’s blog is written by the delightful Becky Kiser (you can read her previous CWIVES guest blog at this link http://www.cwives.com/?p=1506). She writes her own blog…

Reader Question of the Week: What if the Dares are Difficult for Me?

Dear Dr. Jennifer, I receive your Dares of the Month, but I’ve never been “able” to do one because of nervousness and insecurity. There is…

Jeff Speaks Out: My Husband Will Take Your Questions Now

As promised, here are Jeff’s answers to your questions. He really is the best of husbands. I edited his answers only for grammatical errors, so…

Guest Blogger Arlene Pellicane on “Making Time for Love with Young Kids in the House”

Today’s guest blogger is Arlene Pellicane (look at her photo–isn’t she lovely?). She knows a thing or two on how to make a husband happy;…

Let’s Put Dr. Jennifer’s Husband on the Hot Seat

Life is interesting when you are married to “the sex lady.” You never know what other people will come up and say to you or…

Reader Question: How Do I Help My Husband Become a Better Lover?

Dear Dr. Jennifer, My problem is that I find sex with my husband…. lacking. We both have great sex drives: he could probably have sex…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Six: Causes and Treatments for Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual problem; according to Rekindling Desire, “3 in 10 adult males experience early ejaculation.” This begs the question:…

Guest Blog: Becky Kiser on “Sex Isn’t Like the Movies”

You are in for a treat today! Today’s blog is written by Becky Kiser, an absolutely delightful young wife and mom. Her popular blog (which…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Five: How to Address His Sexual Dysfunction

Tactfulness, timing, and teamwork are key when addressing sexual dysfunctions, such erectile difficulties or premature ejaculation, with your husband. Discussions like this often go better…

Excellent Resource to Add to Your Sex Book Collection: “The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex”

      What?! You don’t have a collection of sex books written for Christians? Perhaps you have a collection of cookbooks because you know…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Four: Causes of and Treatments for Erectile Difficulties

            Ask your husband what he fears the most, and you may hear answers like “heights,” “loneliness,” or even “your…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Three: How Erectile Difficulties Lead to Lack of Desire

This is the third in a series of blogs on the topic of husbands with low sexual desire. If you are a wife seeking to…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part Two: Causes of Male Desire Problems

This is the second in a series of blogs on the topic of husbands with low sexual desire. Yes, that’s right, there are husbands who…

“When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” Part One: Wives Speak Out

The question I’m asked most frequently by CWIVES readers is “How can I get my husband more interested in sex?” If you are surprised by…

Christmas Pick Up Lines

To add to your CWIVES holiday fun, here is a list of Christmas-themed pick up lines to try out on your husband. I hope they…

How We Tear Down Our Marriages, One Negative Thought at a Time

Are you stuck in a rut of thinking negative thoughts about sex or your husband? Do any of these sound familiar? “I could go the…

Reader Question: How Do I Learn to Talk Sexy?

Dear Dr. Jennifer, My husband wants me to be sexy, such as initiating sex in a sexy way and talking dirty. I have no idea…

Reader Question: Am I a prude because I don’t enjoy acting out my husband’s sexual fantasies?

Hi Jennifer, I caught the end of your program on Midday Connection today and found it very interesting. In the past and currently, my husband…

Back in the Blogging Saddle & Barna Research

It’s been an interesting five weeks since my last blog entry. For technical reasons unknown to me, I couldn’t log onto my own website via…

How Can I Be a Godly Wife AND a Sensuous Wife?

The Godly, Sensuous Wife Have you ever wondered, “How can I be a godly wife and a sensuous wife?” The question behind this question is,…

Guest Blogger, Jill Savage of Hearts at Home, on Scheduling Sex

Today’s guest blogger is Jill Savage, the lovely and wise founder of Hearts at Home. Hearts at Home’s mission is to encourage, educate, and equip…

Reader Question: What Can I Do if My Husband is Opposed to Lubricants?

Reader Question:  What Can I Do if My Husband is Opposed to Lubricants? Hi Dr. Jennifer, My husband has always been opposed to the idea…

Guest Blogger, Leigh Ann Napier, on Adding More Happy to Your Marriage

CWIVES is  excited to share some blog space this week with Leigh Ann Napier, The Happy Marriage Coach.  Read on to find out more about…

Email Inbox Test

Today’s blog is a guest post by Poppy Smith, the author of the newly released Why Can’t HE Be More Like ME? Enjoy! Have you…

What Sex Means to Husbands

What do you think sex means to your husband? Try this fun and enlightening task:  Find two index cards. On one card, write these questions:…